Everyone hates being judged; but everyone is a judge whether they admit it or not. I don’t believe judgment is a bad thing, in some cases it it necessary for survival. Dictionary.com has a couple of definitions for “judgment” that read as follows:
1. the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion:
2. the forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances, presented to the mind
Sadly, immediately preceding these definitions it lists “discrimination” as a synonym. How can this be? When did forming an objective opinion become synonymous with discrimination?
What We Think It Means
The word judgment seems to have lost it’s true meaning over the years only to be replaced by something with an awful stigma. For instance, when someone orders a Super Sized #2 with a Large McFlurry then glares at you and snaps “Don’t judge me!”; what are they actually saying? They’re saying “Don’t lower your opinion of me based on this 2,000 calorie meal!”
As humans our ego wants to be like, to be well thought of even if our actions dictate otherwise. Unfortunately that’s not how the human mind works (at least not how it should work). We are designed to receive information, analyze (judge) that information, then form a conclusion based on that information; even if the conclusion is…..we need more information. It’s illogical and unreasonable to believe you can act however you desire and expect those observing not to generate an opinion.
“Now, Now, Let’s Not Judge”
The Bible speaks on judging others in Matt 7:1-5:
“Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3 Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”
Regretfully this passage has been shortened to a quick rebuke of “Judge not….” Or “Now, now, lets not judge.” Every time I hear these statements I want to scream. “Matthew is condemning hypocrisy; not the enforcement of God’s law!” We see this in v4-5
4 Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
Your actions DO have consequences, and you can’t be upset if something makes an conclusion based on what they observe.
If something walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, and looks like a duck….am I wrong in my judgement to think it’s a duck? Food for thought.